Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus

All of us want to raise good kids And we want to be good parents But what exactly do we mean by good And is being good really the point Mother daughter team Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson contend that every way we try to make our kids good is simply an extension of Old Testament Law a set of standards that is not only unable to save our children, but alsoAll of us want to raise good kids And we want to be good parents But what exactly do we mean by good And is being good really the point Mother daughter team Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson contend that every way we try to make our kids good is simply an extension of Old Testament Law a set of standards that is not only unable to save our children, but also powerless to change them.No, rules are not the answer What they need is GRACE.We must tell our kids of the grace giving God who freely adopts rebels and transforms them into loving sons and daughters If this is not the message your children hear, if you are just telling them to be good, then the gospel needs to transform your parenting too.Give Them Grace is a revolutionary perspective on parenting that shows us how to receive the gospel afresh and give grace in abundance, helping our children know the dazzling love of Jesus and respond with heartfelt obedience.
Give Them Grace Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus All of us want to raise good kids And we want to be good parents But what exactly do we mean by good And is being good really the point Mother daughter team Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson cont

  • Title: Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus
  • Author: Elyse M. Fitzpatrick JessicaThompson Tullian Tchividjian
  • ISBN: 9781433520099
  • Page: 416
  • Format: Paperback
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    1. Preface to Make a Long Review even LongerI have an 18-month-old. He usually behaves pretty well. For an 18-month-old. I think. You see, I’ve never had one before, I haven’t made a whole lot of observations of 18-month-olds, and I don’t ever remember being one.So should you take my review of this parenting book with a grain of salt? Maybe more than one grain? Sure, yes. Always do that. I try to season my words with salt already, so it shouldn’t be too hard.But here at the outset I want to [...]

    2. I wanted to like this book. I did. But I just couldn't. My problems with this book aren't conceptual. The main problem is that it's poorly written. They go on and on and every chapter pretty much says the same thing as the first, with slight modifications. Even they say it's all about the simplicity of the cross, repeating it over and over to your children, and that's exactly what I felt like I was getting. The same message over and over. The book is even written like they are speaking to childr [...]

    3. I'm sorry. I cannot recommend this book to anyone. I just can't get behind this type of parenting, I suppose. Perhaps I am not "Christian" enough but I do not think it's necessary to destroy my child to drive them to Christ. The scenarios are ridiculous with huge, long lectures.even when the child does good! Oh, wait. Kids can't be good. I think we do need to dazzle our kids with the love of Jesus. Giving long guilt trips any time they complain or have a poor attitude just isn't healthy, IMO. I [...]

    4. I didn't finish this book and I won't because the author has chosen to be super hateful (and completely wrong) about Mormons, which she LOVES to bash repeatedly in this book, from the intro to the first few chapters. Quote from chapter 1, page 37:"If a Mormon can play the game exactly the same way you do, it isn't a Christian game. It's a morality game and we aren't moralists; we're Christians. If a Mormon can parent the same way you do, your parenting isn't Christian."Quote from chapter 1, page [...]

    5. Paradigm changer: stop trying to be the perfect parent in order to raise the perfect child (or children). Instead, grow deeper in your knowledge and confidence in God's grace to us through His son Jesus. Share that grace with your children. Rest.This book made me think, challenged me, and also helped me to identify how much of an idol my parenting has become to me.The downside: practical examples are just not present in this book. And the sample dialog is far too wordy. Surely no child would all [...]

    6. I laid aside my skepticism of books that have words like "dazzle" in their title for a while to read this book, of which I've heard some rave reviews.In essence, the first 90 pages (or so) are largely consumed with establishing a theological foundation. One's view of the book will be significantly coloured by their perspective on that foundation. As you can gather from the two star rating, I am not fond of this book. That said, I don't regret reading it and learned a few things. One must applaud [...]

    7. Give Them Grace asks readers a very important question: how does believing the gospel change the way that you parent? The authors assert that if the way Christians parent is the same as a devout Muslim or Jew, there must be something wrong. I think this is a paradigm shift that is very important for Christian parents, and one that I have been excited to see more and more of in the last five to ten years.The overall message of the book will be a balm to many readers. Resting in grace, parenting w [...]

    8. The OverviewThe Mother/Daughter team of Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson team up in this book to give us a comprehensive handbook on giving grace to our children. They lay the foundation for what the means, give many examples of what it looks like, explain the theology that drives it, and share wisdom that will equip you. While it is mostly about understanding the concept of grace in light of the gospel, it does contain practical how-to tips that will help you apply it to your own life.The [...]

    9. I suspect that a lot of the negative reviews complaining that this book is unrealistic or condescending come from people who didn't read the second half. The first half is mostly theory, the second half is application. I found the appendices at the very end to be especially helpful. I would have given this book five stars, but it is a tad bit long, and I think it could be better organized--I can see how the first half could be overwhelming/discouraging for a mom who is looking for some quick ans [...]

    10. Gah. As much as I wanted to read this book, once I started, I just couldn't bear to pick it up again. Since it's been 8 months since I picked it up, I think I can safely say I have ZERO desire to finish it. Guess it's going into my DONATE pile. I just can't imagine saying any of their suggested dialog to my kids. (Granted, my kids are just babies, but still!) Plus, although I found the premise to be good (that we shouldn't be good just to be good), the whole thing seemed squicky and self-righteo [...]

    11. As far as teaching your kids the glory of Grace and to not rely on self-reliance, I'd give it 3 stars. They made all the mistakes you expect Baptists to make in not understanding Covenant succession. So I won't score them on that, it wouldn't be fair. As far as lay out and quality of writing, I'd give them 1 star.

    12. Are you a parent who wants perfect kids? Adjust your parenting style to any number of the hundreds of books on parenting currently in print and you’ll be the successful parent you’ve always wanted to be with the successful children you’ve always wanted!Sadly, this is the message of many parenting books that draw the hopeful and discouraged to their pages with each new publication. In Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus, mother and daughter team Elyse Fitzpatrick and [...]

    13. I generally loved the premise of this book. That is: that how are we as Christians raising our kids different than any other faith that teaches kids about rigid rules of Scripture? Are we really teaching them about God's grace or just to be moral legalists. It was a compelling read and one that I needed. It was a relief to read that we need to raise our kids in the full beauty of the Scripture and that the law is what we do by HIs grace in response to His great love for us and not as a way to "g [...]

    14. After thinking more on this book I had to change my rating from three stars to four stars. My initial rating of three stars was probably not fair. I should give this book more "grace"; my grievances with this book are pretty petty and not worth listing, so I won't be "dazzling" anyone that reads this with a list of complaintsThe concept of God's grace is very well explained here and I do have a deeper understanding of the power of this undeserved gift that has been given so freely; and that that [...]

    15. I read this a few months ago and I know it is quite popular. Sometimes I felt the examples or suggestions were manipulative on the parent's part. One thing I really liked was this quote, "We were never meant to carry the ultimate responsibility for anyone's soul: neither our own nor our children's. Only the Good Shepherd is strong enough to carry a soul - that's His job, not ours." p.55 What is key from that quote is knowing what our role is as parents. Huge. For me there were too many ideas I q [...]

    16. I was a bit thrown by the Calvinist theology, but in the end I was able to whole-heartedly embrace the book's message. It's true that there is nothing I can do to ensure that I am raising "successful" children but to throw them--and myself--on God's mercy. This is no guarantee that they will ultimately follow Christ, but there is no guarantee in any other method anyway. I can release my guilt and anxiety about parenting "right" and trust that God will redeem my failure (as well as honor my obedi [...]

    17. Great message, but got bogged down in the long, wordy sentences. I had a hard time following what she was saying at times. And, there's no way any of my children would ever sit through her whole "sample conversations". Surely the message of grace can be boiled down to 2 sentences for little boys :D But, I enjoyed the overall message. Christian parenting should look different from non-Christian parenting. If we raise rule-following children without the message of what Jesus did, we're no better t [...]

    18. This book was poorly written and by the end it seemed their parenting style is to beat them over the head with Jesus. Several of the examples are just not realistic, if my child is hurting due to losing a sports game, I'm not going to say, "You didn't play enough like Jesus." The advice is completely absurd and over the top. I believe there are clear disobedience issues I my children, times when they are choosing to disobey. The author glosses over those and always says give them grace, almost n [...]

    19. This was the best book that i have read on parenting. Many might be thinking, "Why is this dude reading parenting books? He has no kids." This is true, however, Dr. Lambert made read a lot of parenting books for Marriage and Family class last semester. Im not complaining, because it was extremely informative and encouraging. This book, i believed, was the best and i would recommend it to any parent or future parent.

    20. I'll be brief. Great philosophy, poorly written book. Just read the introduction and the appendices, skim the rest as quickly as you can, making sure to ignore the first 2-3 pages of each chapter entirely and you should get everything you need.

    21. The ideas presented in this book were sound, but their practical suggestions weren't practical at all. Kept reading thinking it would get more reasonable and it never did. I really wanted to like this book!

    22. One of the best parenting books I've read, and at the same time one of the best books about the gospel I've read.

    23. Recommended. Adds in book form to the conversation that has been going on among Christians about what grace and the Gospel looks like in our families. Full review coming soon!___________This is the book I wish had been published twenty years ago.I’ve made plenty of mistakes as a mother, and I know I’ll make plenty more. Yet each year the Lord seems to help me see more clearly my need for the grace of the Gospel in my life and in my parenting. I’ve discussed with friends, with my pastor, at [...]

    24. In her new book , Give them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus, acclaimed Christian author Elyse Fitzpatrick does what great Christian writers do: she convicts us deeply of our sin, and then offers us the comfort and hope found in the gospel alone. She asks us the vital question: If you’re a Christian, what makes your parenting distinctly Christian? How does my parenting differ from that of my Muslim or Jewish neighbor’s? If there is no difference, I have a serious problem, and [...]

    25. Elyse M. Fitzpatrick and her daughter, Jessica Thompson, team up to write an amazing book on parenting.Give Them Grace is not a parenting manual, however. Give Them Grace is a book that reminds us that parenting manuals don't do the job that we need them to do. The premise of this book is that the goal of parenting is not to raise good children, but godly children. If we train them to be good, there is a great possibility that they will rebel against the rules, or turn out to be hypocrites, the [...]

    26. Give Them Grace seems to be making waves as the latest, greatest book on parenting in the conservative evangelical world. It is certainly paradigm-shifting, turning from moralistic parenting to more application and displaying of grace over law in the way we interact with our children. Overall, it was a helpful book. I am immensely thankful for the shift in teaching that I perceive to be more aligned with Scripture than some pretty much all of the other parenting books written for this particular [...]

    27. This book really changed the way I thought about parenting. I have read other Christian parenting materials and felt like I wasn't measuring up when my children wouldn't listen to me right away, the first time, and with a good attitude. In this book, I learned about the importance of showing God's grace and presenting the gospel in my parenting. I think I've seen one other book about grace-based parenting but this was totally new to me. It really changed my thinking in terms of just trying to ra [...]

    28. The original concept of this book is slap you across the face great. Allowing grace to govern the way you raise your children- and do everything else in life- is exactly the way God intended us to live. Where I struggled with the ideas of the authors was in the constant negative reminders to children of their failures. No, we don't want to raise kids who think they are the be all and end all, but how helpful is it really to tell them how they will never be successful on their own? Learning about [...]

    29. This was the best book I have read on parenting (although it might be one of the only ones I have read too).Every chapter was filled with practical examples of what makes Christian parenting distinctly Christian. Leading your kids with law (do this and you'll get rewarded, do that and you'll be punished) does not make your parenting necessarily Christian, as she points out, and even non believers and other religious families lead their kids this way.What makes Christian parenting is when we remi [...]

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