Grace and Grit: Spirituality and Healing in the Life and Death of Treya Killam Wilber

Grace and Grit is the compelling story of the five year journey of psychologist Ken Wilber and his wife, Treya Killam Wilber, through Treya s illness, treatment, and finally, death.It is a rare book a love story that brings the perennial wisdom of the ages to life in all the anguish and exaltation that comprise the human condition.The author s wide ranging commentary Grace and Grit is the compelling story of the five year journey of psychologist Ken Wilber and his wife, Treya Killam Wilber, through Treya s illness, treatment, and finally, death.It is a rare book a love story that brings the perennial wisdom of the ages to life in all the anguish and exaltation that comprise the human condition.The author s wide ranging commentary which questions both conventional and New Age approaches to illness is combined with Treya s journals to create a vivid, vibrant and honest portrait of health and healing, wholeness and harmony, suffering and surrender.An extraordinary testimony to the power and beauty of the human spirit, Grace and Grit at the same time conveys many sustained insights into the difference between spirituality and religion, into psychotherapy and women s spirituality and into meditation and its scope and meaning in today s world It is a life changing work An inspiring and profoundly moving story of an extraordinary love match told by both partners as they are tested to their limits and each grows and deepens in personal understanding and depth of relationship Dr Robin Skynner A deep and searing look at living, dying, loving, death and resurrection M Scott PeckOther books by Ken WilberMarriage of Sense and Soul A Theory of Everything A Brief History of Everything
Grace and Grit Spirituality and Healing in the Life and Death of Treya Killam Wilber Grace and Grit is the compelling story of the five year journey of psychologist Ken Wilber and his wife Treya Killam Wilber through Treya s illness treatment and finally death It is a rare book a

  • Title: Grace and Grit: Spirituality and Healing in the Life and Death of Treya Killam Wilber
  • Author: Ken Wilber
  • ISBN: 9780717132348
  • Page: 271
  • Format: Paperback
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    1. My dear cousin lent me her copy of this book a few months back and at the time told me it was one of her all-time favorite books -- now after completing it myself -- I completely understand why.This has to be one of the most emotionally touching and spiritually rewarding books I have ever read. As well as one of the most sincere and amazing love stories I could ever imagine. It offers such personal insight into the dying process - but even more so into how that process can change ones perspectiv [...]

    2. Recommended by a good friend I love and respect, a psychologist by profession and warm and sensitive spirit by nature, when she heard my brother was battling pancreatic cancer.It took me a long time -- 3 years, actually -- to get to this book. I have to admit, the reason was that I was afraid to read it. My friend lent me her copy during the months when my brother was being treated for cancer, and I didn't know if I would be able to handle reading about someone who lost her own battle. I finally [...]

    3. written 7/7/04 after the death of my son isaak:i just returned from warm sun rays in the back yard and a finished book that left me in tears. an old love sent this book to me, and the more i read it, the more reasoning for its arrival comes clear. i can`t fully explain the emotion that sits upon my chest at the moment. but i can share a few passages that may make its way throughom the book titled `grace and grit,' written by both ken wilber and his lost love treyaese were her last moments here. [...]

    4. It is right there in the title, you know it is coming, Treya's death. You are pretty sure you will be ready for it, but it hits you like a typhoon, and you can not even stand for a long while after you read it. You know if it was a real typhoon, you would have drowned. SO yeah, this is an intense book, a very meaningful, intense book.And before I sing it's praises, I must say I recommend this to anyone with a chronic illness or those caring for someone who has one. If this describes you: MAKE TH [...]

    5. I gave up on this one. Although parts of this book really appealed to me (I especially enjoyed the reflections on eastern and western philosophy and religion) I couldn't stand Ken Wilber's self-importance. For a book about spirituality and healing he seemed rather full of himself. Also, I was floored that he didn't dedicate at least more than one paragraph to when he hit/beat Treya. Not saying he needed to dwell on it or dedicate a chapter to it, but for being such an unsettling moment, he could [...]

    6. Enough pain and suffering to make one desperate to become a Buddhist. Wilber writes with exquisite care and understanding.

    7. Was given this book to read by a friend for a curriculum we are devising. I finished it yesterday- or rather, I finished two-thirds of it yesterday. This is really two books: the compelling story of Ken and Treya Wilber, who discovered that she had stage 4 breast cancer 10 days after their wedding, and an academic-even arcane- discourse on the world's different contemplative/spiritual disciplines. In his introduction, Wilber confesses that "the MAIN PURPOSE of this book is to provide and introdu [...]

    8. I'm reading this book for class. It's not my favorite book. I want to like it, for I think it should have something somewhat profound to say about death, dying and the "mystical" experience. But Wilber comes off as being highly impressed by his own ideas and, from my perspective at least, he seems to misunderstand some of the teachings he's trying to interpret. Or, at least, he picks and chooses the interpretations he likes and manipulates other info so that it fits into his own ideas. Basically [...]

    9. When Ken and Treya met it was love at first touch. They just hugged and hugged. A few months later they were married. 10 days after marrying they found out that Treya had breast cancer. This is the story of how they dealt with the cancer, the treatment and Treya's final days. It deals honestly with the pain and the overwhelming work that dealing with cancer can be both for the patient and the caregiver. Ken is a writer and philosopher and this is quite clearly reflected in the book while the two [...]

    10. Honest and intimate journey encompassing living with and treating breast cancer told from both the patient's perspective, and her caregiver's perspective (said husband/caregiver being preeminent philosopher Ken Wilber), including the ride of their relationship through sickness and relative health, and their journey into healing approaches and spiritual practices. Excellent information on the world's spiritual traditions and practices. A love song to the Self, and an intimate glimpse into the hea [...]

    11. Life/DeathReal people, Ken and Treya,fall deeply in love and they decide to marry. At this point her terminal illness reveals itself.The marriage plans are not cancelled.Lives naturally come to their ends, but in the meantime, this couple livesgether, separately and as honestly as people can. It's their honesty which bumped me up to living more passionately. Treya trusted in the truth and allowing Ken room.

    12. The story of Ken's true love, from that moment of first glimpse to the last seconds of her life. This book is the story of Wilber's wifes battle with terminal cancer, her strength, his too. His weaknesses are exposed and he examines them as she continues to fight the cancer. Wilber, I think learns what life is really all about (even though he has written about life/philosophy for years) and what it means to live and love now.A must read.

    13. It is a beautiful lovestory about Ken and his wife Treya. It is also a fascinating story of how they grow and what they learn through Treyas five years of cancer until her death. I learned about spirituality and psychotherapy, about compassion and budhism, and about how to be a support-person to people who are ill.

    14. Metaphyscics, cancer, love,death and the journey through all of it, while trying to grapple with our ideas of what it is to be human.I love Ken Wilber and this book made him human and not just an astounding genius that is untouchable.

    15. A profoundly moving love story illuminating the life lessons learned during Treya's 5-year engagement with cancer. The teaching chapters (e.g 11, Psychotherapy and Spirituality) strike me as some of Ken's clearest work.

    16. This is a very inspiring, uplifting book of relationships and dealing with illness and loss. I have actually read it three times and learned something new each time.

    17. I read this book some 16 years ago and loved it and just now reread it and found it even richer this time, full of precious gems. Highly recommendable!

    18. If I could rate it 2.5 stars, I would. This isn't a bad book but it's not great. Wilmer's lack of citations when making medical claims is alarming. There is also a lot of excess that adds nothing to the story of Treya's experience and seems to be little more than ego gratification for Wilber. His racist framing of medical treatments (legitimate medicine is 'white man's' and 'Western') is also a cause for alarm. Not to mention the talk of detoxing (detoxing what? What toxins specifically?) Howeve [...]

    19. Treya’s passages are the star of the show here, and her personal development really picks up towards the end. Didn’t really enjoy the beginning because Wilber talks about himself and his ideas a lot — it’s almost like he’s pushing out another of his own books plus a book about her. Eventually grew to somewhat enjoy his spiritual tangents in the requisite context of Treya’s development. Great for those interested in spiritual development and meditation as many other books and teachers [...]

    20. My life coach recommended this book to me when one of my loved ones was diagnosed with a very rare and aggressive cancer. My coach said, “It may not be easy, but it will be worth it.” He could not have been more right. I just finished the book, and am just gripped by the vulnerability and depth contained within its pages; by a profound respect for both Treya and Ken; by their staggering intellects; and indeed, by Treya’s grace and grit.

    21. I think yo will like this book if you are interested in spirituality, especially non-conventional spirituality, caregiving, cancer, or tearjerkers.OK-- here is the basic premise of the book. This part is not really a spoiler as you can get this from the book jacket.Backstory:Ken Wilber is a very well known theorist in the area of transpersonal psychology, which is a synthesis of Western psychology and Eastern phlosophy. (He remarks sarcastically this is like being the tallest building in Denver. [...]

    22. Ken Wilber, Grace and Grit: Spirituality and Healing in the Life of Treya Killam Wilber, Shambala, Boston, 2000.About half this book consists of the journals of Treya Wilber, and her letters to family and friends. It is an extremely moving book as it traces the struggles of Treya against cancer and of Ken who gave up everything to help his wife. They met in August 1983 and got married in November. Instead of going to Hawaii for their honeymoon, Treya had an op to remove a lump from her breast, w [...]

    23. This is my second reading. The first was a year after the death of my mother. At times, this was emotionally hard. In the long run I'm sensing there is much food for thought if one is into that kind of thing. There are insights into the enlightenment process that I recognize, admire and hold dear.

    24. Phew! Get ready to go on a ride. Ever see the Darren Aronofsky movie The Fountain? It's been said Hugh Jackman's character is based on Ken, and Rachel Weisz on Treya, Ken's wife. Jennifer Aniston was considered for the role though, it hasn't seen a full treatment.Ken Wilber at 23 years old wrote "The Spectrum of Consciousness" and pretty much overnight became "the next Sigmund Freud," and "the Einstein of psychology." Everything is great and gets better. He meets a gorgeous Mt. Holyoke lady (I k [...]

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