Related by Chance, Family by Choice: Transforming Mother-In-Law and Daughter-In-Law Relationships

The caricatures are everywhere, the jokes are inexhaustible, and the stereotypes fill the screens From Marie Barone Everyone Loves Raymond to Viola Fields Monster in Law to Internet sites and social media pages like ihatemyinlaws and a Facebook page for ihatemymotherinlaw there is no shortage of examples of the caustic relationships that can develop between the twThe caricatures are everywhere, the jokes are inexhaustible, and the stereotypes fill the screens From Marie Barone Everyone Loves Raymond to Viola Fields Monster in Law to Internet sites and social media pages like ihatemyinlaws and a Facebook page for ihatemymotherinlaw there is no shortage of examples of the caustic relationships that can develop between the two women in a man s life.Deb DeArmond and her three daughters in law have conducted their own exhaustive research into the status of the women in law relationship Their research, which incorporated online surveys, interviews, and discussions, included asking about the faith factor in the relationships they studied Of the respondents, nearly 90 percent claimed they were Christians, and 79 percent said their faith was foundational and guided their actions and decisions As discouraging as it may be, the numbers of those they surveyed who reported that their women in law relationships were bad were nearly identical to those in a survey conducted by a popular secular website that recorded no statistics on faith.Beyond the statistics and their analysis, Deb brings to this book than thirty years working with adults to improve communications and deal constructively with conflict Aside from her research and her professional expertise, perhaps the most important asset Deb brings to this work is her own relationship with her three daughters in law that is so obviously and unusually positive that she and they are often asked to explain the secret of the relationships they share.This practical and unapologetically scriptural book covers issues of personal perceptions, strained communication, the roles of sons and fathers in the relationship s success, how to begin these relationships on the right foot, and the necessity of trust and love Deb s one motivating objective is to help women in law move from women who are simply related to strong and confident members of a truly spiritual family.
Related by Chance Family by Choice Transforming Mother In Law and Daughter In Law Relationships The caricatures are everywhere the jokes are inexhaustible and the stereotypes fill the screens From Marie Barone Everyone Loves Raymond to Viola Fields Monster in Law to Internet sites and social m

  • Title: Related by Chance, Family by Choice: Transforming Mother-In-Law and Daughter-In-Law Relationships
  • Author: Deb DeArmond
  • ISBN: 9780825443251
  • Page: 377
  • Format: Paperback
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    1. About the Book:The caricatures are everywhere, the jokes are inexhaustible, and the stereotypes fill the screens. From Marie Barone (Everyone Loves Raymond) to Viola Fields (Monster-in-Law) to Internet sites and social media pages like ihatemyinlaws and a Facebook page for ihatemymotherinlaw there is no shortage of examples of the caustic relationships that can develop between the two women in a man's life.Deb De Armond and her three daughters-in-law have conducted their own exhaustive research [...]

    2. I hate to admit that after being married 8 years, this is the fist book I've read concerning the MIL/DIL relationship. This is the kind of book that should be read as soon as a mother/fiancé knows that marriage is on the horizon. I don't care how wonderful a MIL/DIL is, it's a relationship that comes with difficulties. I read this book because *I* have great room for improvement!! I don't always react to situations in the best way, and I welcomed some advice on how to be a better DIL. I wish it [...]

    3. I liked this book very much. So often relationships between women-in-law are strained at the very least, if not downright antagonistic. I love that the author has great relationships with all three of her daughters-in-law, and I want to have similar relationships with any sons or daughters-in-law I might be blessed with in the future.

    4. In-laws. Those two words separated by a hyphen often represent what for some constitute one of the great challenges when it comes to marriage. There is an old adage that says you don’t just marry your spouse, you marry your spouse’s family as well. Far too often in the lives of many families, there is great conflict that arises between the married couple and the in-laws. Perhaps this is due somewhat to the feeling that nobody is good enough for my daughter or son or the lack of understanding [...]

    5. Life Changing I have been married for just over a year and I wish I'd read this sooner! I have a wonderful MIL but she is so wonderful that sometimes it makes it hard to feel like there is any room for me. This book shows me how to develop my bond with my husband AND love and support his mother. I'd recommend this to any women starting a new relationship as MIL or DIL.

    6. Around six years ago before my son got married, I decided that I wanted to get informed and educated on mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, so I read a book on the subject. I’m finding it interesting now to be doing this book review on this subject at hand and it pleases me. A topic, which I must say is not always well talked about. Most often it is discouraging. So I was curious as to what this author had to say about this matter, which more than often seems to be controversial.I was so bles [...]

    7. Title: RELATED BY CHANCE, FAMILY BY CHOICEAuthor: Deb DeArmondPublisher: Kregel PublicationsOctober 2013ISBN: 978-0825443251Genre: relationshipsThe caricatures are everywhere, the jokes are inexhaustible, and the stereotypes fill the screens. From Marie Barone (Everyone Loves Raymond) to Viola Fields (Monster-in-Law) to Internet sites and social media pages like ihatemyinlaws and a Facebook page for ihatemymotherinlaw there is no shortage of examples of the caustic relationships that can develop [...]

    8. Okay, I’ve heard it all – first hand – I don’t need to go to the Internet to find out that in law relationships are often rocky, sometimes they can be down right hostile. I saw the daughter-in-law, mother-in-law conundrum through out my growing up years and so I thought that is the way it’s supposed to be and in almost 13 years of marriage to my husband I haven’t really done anything to nurture the relationship with his mom. Sadly. I read this book both as a daughter-in-law and a som [...]

    9. See full review @ The Indigo Quill: theindigoquill/20I received a free copy from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. Wow, this is probably one of the most useful self-help books I have ever picked up in my life. There are a million-and-one great resources you can use to put a dent in your in-law relationships. God knows I've experienced both sides of the spectrum! Deb Armond exhibits class and grace in achieving healthy God-focused interaction between mothers and daughters-in law ali [...]

    10. Its the standard thoughtTHE TERRIBLE MOTHER IN LAW! However I really lucked out and have developed a great relationship with mine. Deb's book focuses on Christ related ways to change the dynamics from negative to positive or improve good relationships to great.One of the first tasks in the book is to assess your relationship and even though I got a good score in how I viewed the dynamic between myself and my MIL there was still room for improvement.I enjoyed how the book not only gave Biblical P [...]

    11. Mother in laws notoriously get a bad wrap. I have many friends that I have heard complain and tell horror stories. So what is it about this relationship that is so flawed? Deb DeArmond eloquently and frankly discusses her insights in Related by Chance, Family by Choice.I guess I am lucky and fairly unique in that I actually like my mother in law! We definitely had a few bumps in the road in the beginning but the bottom line is, we both love her son. It's not a competition. So why are so many wom [...]

    12. I got this book as a first readers winner. I learned some things as I read the book and took the assessments in regards to my Daughter-in-law and my mother-in-law. Reading the book from the prospective of a MIL and a DIL gave me pause through most of the book. However, I decided part way through to concentrate on my relationship with my own DIL since she is the one I am in the process of a relationship with and not my own MIL since that is in the winding down stage. I would recommend this book a [...]

    13. What an amazing book, it is a book about relationships, and that of specifically of the daughter-in-law, mother-in-law relationship.I really liked the way the author makes us view the relationship; is it law or love? If we look at the relationship from the love aspect… that is mother-in-love or daughter-in-love, how much easier would that make the relationship? This is a wonderful book for young women looking to get married, or in a relationship, to help build her relationship to her spouse’ [...]

    14. I once read, “If marriage was illegal, only outlaws would have in-laws.”This is a great book! It is full of wisdom, practical steps, probing questions, and Scripture to get us to develop true relationships with our in-laws.Please visit here.Deb DeArmond is celebrating the release of her book, Related by Chance, Family by Choice, with a “Day of Bonding” Spa giveaway!relatedbychance-400One winner will receive:A $200 SpaFinder gift card (perfect for a pampering day of bonding)Related by Cha [...]

    15. DeArmond uses the biblical story of Ruth and Naomi as the focal example of an ideal in-law relationship throughout the book, including in the study guides that follow each chapter with a "What Would Ruth and Naomi Do?" type of thought provoking conversation starter. She also includes real-life examples of good and bad relationships, and stories from her own relationships with her three daughters-in-laws. And, DeArmond includes her DILs' in the mix with a chapter devoted to their thoughts and sto [...]

    16. You may have heard the topic as the brunt of a joke or sitcom situations on TV - the relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Author Deb DeArmond explores the struggles women often face as they transition into these new roles. They have one common bond - a man they both dearly love - one through marriage, and the other through motherhood.I found this book to be quite insightful as both a daughter-in-law and a fairly recent mother-in-law. Any woman in either of these situations c [...]

    17. I’m unsure as to how I want to begin writing this review for Related by Chance, Family by Choice. The book alone was wonderful and well written but it didn’t apply to me, or at least I thought so. Deb DeArmond did an absolutely lovely job at writing this and with the physical interaction and questions within each chapter is something that I look for when I read books like this.Yet, I’m not married but am in a relationship of 3 ½ years. I just felt that this title wasn’t for me, but it c [...]

    18. Family…you can’t live without them, but living with them isn’t always a bed of roses.And mother-in-laws….oh, don’t even go there!!!If your relationship with your MIL isn’t what it could be, I highly recommend that you pick up Deb’s book.Here’s why…#1 it’s honest- the author doesn’t sugar coat the difficulties & dynamics of the MIL/DIL relationship.#2 it’s helpful- the tools in this book are unlike anything I’ve seen before & really get you digging into the heart [...]

    19. This is an excellent book. DeArmond writes from her research and her own experience. She has three daughters-in-law and has worked with many in-law relationships. Her wisdom and tips are great. There is an assessment at the end of each chapter, a plan of action with questions, and a prayer. This is a very good book for any one with in-law relationships, wanting to establish a good one or repair a damaged one. This is also good for people anticipating having an in-law soon. See my full review at [...]

    20. Some good insight and practical application but I found it hard to rely on the word of a woman who has no expertise in the area other than being a mother in law to 3 daughters in law. She cites "interviews" (probably just stories of people she knows) and no research or facts.

    21. Again - another great read with so much wisdom to apply to a relationship that most women will experience and has gotten some really, really bad reputations through the years. So grateful I came across this early in my journey as a mom-in-law.

    22. A must read. I found this book to be very insightful and easy to read. It's presentation is well thought out and there is biblical reference to support her advice.

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