The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups

One of the premier experts on parenting, Dr Leonard Sax brilliantly articulates the problems parents experience with their children, then gives solutions If you have time to read only one book this year, read this one Meg Meeker, M.D best selling author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters and Strong Mothers, Strong Sons In The Collapse of Parenting, internationall One of the premier experts on parenting, Dr Leonard Sax brilliantly articulates the problems parents experience with their children, then gives solutions If you have time to read only one book this year, read this one Meg Meeker, M.D best selling author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters and Strong Mothers, Strong Sons In The Collapse of Parenting, internationally acclaimed author Leonard Sax argues that rising levels of obesity, depression, and anxiety among young people can be traced to parents abdicating their authority The result is children who have no standard of right and wrong, who lack discipline, and who look to their peers and the Internet for direction Sax shows how parents must reassert their authority by limiting time with screens, by encouraging better habits at the dinner table, and by teaching humility and perspective to help their children thrive in an increasingly complicated world.
The Collapse of Parenting How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown Ups One of the premier experts on parenting Dr Leonard Sax brilliantly articulates the problems parents experience with their children then gives solutions If you have time to read only one book this ye

  • Title: The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups
  • Author: Leonard Sax
  • ISBN: 9780465048977
  • Page: 381
  • Format: Hardcover
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    1. It's always a tough call for me to give a book five stars. I'm afraid of overselling something and then disappointing people (although my critical reviews appear to offend more people than my hyperbolic ones). I was also reluctant because the beginning of this book felt like hackneyed, well-trod ground and I wasn't sure I should bother to keep reading. But I did, and this book completely grew on me, with insights that I found original, useful, and truly resonant. So five stars it is.Leonard Sax, [...]

    2. An amazing book. I believe every parent will benefit from this book.Movies, songs, hip hop culture, and social media networks make parenting much harder; it's tough to be a parent in a society that undermines the role of a parent.The cyber space is just a chaos; on - YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, all those social media networks - everybody wants to be famous, everybody wants to impress peers, and seek validation where it doesn't matter. Parents today are suffering from role confusion a [...]

    3. Wait wait waitDr. Leonard Sax, could that possibly be a pseudonym? Are you sure you're not dad?Seriously though, Sax's parenting philosophy basically lines up with how I was raised, and how I plan to raise my own kids. So he's preaching to the choir here. If that were not the case, I might have taken more issue with the way he uses personal observations and anecdotes to "prove" his view of the world, the US in particular, going to Hell in a handbasket full of selfies, snapchat, and twerking (you [...]

    4. If I could divide my reviews into "information presented" vs "how information is presented," you'd see two different scores. While Dr. Sax offers solid advice on how to parent (not exactly reinventing the wheel so much as reminding us about the existence of the wheel), the way in which it is presented is, quite frankly, very cynical and borderline insulting to an entire generation of parents & children. I found Sax's judgmental tone extremely off-putting, and while I can stand behind the pri [...]

    5. I will have to agree with most of the previous reviews. This is a must read for all parents, teachers and employers. Even if your children are grown or if you have strict standards as to how you will raise your little ones, this book will help you to understand the shift in society and the types of people your children will be interacting with or competing against. As a 19 year former high school Chemistry teacher and an analytical chemist (so many years before) I appreciate Dr. Sax's approach u [...]

    6. A must read for all parents!! We are parents for a reason we can't just be their friend. They are children and need direction and guidance that only parents can give not teachers not peersPARENTS. Although this was a "secular" book it had A LOT of biblical principals: teach your children humility, honesty, hard work, train them up in the way they should go.

    7. I typically don't write reviews about my books because I feel they are very personal, so, I let everyone form their own opinions. However this one took me a bit off guard. I believe the authors point of view deserves questioning. I identified with some interviews that I read from the author. I decided to read the book. However when reading the book I really felt like he was more of the Donald Trump of parenting. While trying to deal with some very real problems we have in our country, his approa [...]

    8. Slate does a great review of this book that sums up its flaws, which are pretty substantial. Instead of evidence, Sax gives us anecdote and personal sentiments of the "kids these days" variety to support his theory that parents are not parenting well.Despite that, Sax hides an occasional nugget of good or well written information. For example, he clearly walks the reader through how leaving screens in a child's bedroom (phone, computer, TV, gaming, whatever) means the parent can't really monitor [...]

    9. Sax had me when he referenced The Smartest Kids in the World: And How They Got That Way by Amanda Ripley. Ripley's book confirmed our decision to send my daughter to a school that mirrored to a large extent the educational systems and approaches that are used in other countries that have achieved academic excellence in the education of their students. Now, Sax has confirmed our position that the old school way of parenting is still relevant in today's world. Sax's basic premise is that kids toda [...]

    10. This parenting book has everything I look for: studies that back up the author's claims, good organization, great writing, and plenty of case studies or examples to illustrate any points. Yet, what really pushed this book into five star territory was that despite the grim and alarming picture the author presented, Dr. Sax also included methods and ways to fix the situation.What is the situation? Dr. Sax maintains (and I rather agree with him) that parental authority has been eliminated through t [...]

    11. I live in a place where some parents will buy their kids drugs and alcohol so they can party at home where it's "safe." Where the last AP Biology final got stricken from the record because of widespread cheating. Where a swim coach got chastised for reprimanding a kid, whose parents then went over his head to complain to the club owner. Where fragile kids need constant snacks, participation trophies, and boosts to their precious self-esteem. I am so on board with this book. The author builds con [...]

    12. I can NOT recommend this book enough. I would give it 6 stars if I could. As both a parent and a teacher, this book is priceless and has taught me so much!

    13. At the risk of offending people who would feel he's too harsh, I would honestly recommend this book to everyone who is raising children. There is a culture of disrespect among young people which I see a lot of while working in various schools but also in my own home. Dr. Sax points out the ways we as parents are failing to raise respectful, resilient children and fortunately also gives some good advice on fixing that within our own families. A lot of it is not new information to me but rather a [...]

    14. A must read for anyone wanting to become a parent (currently me) or who is already a parent. I greatly appreciated how well supported his opinions were, with countless studies and tests he was quoting. It wasn't just a rant of frustration from a random person, but someone who has been heavily immersed and well versed in the problems and solutions he states in this book. It definitely hits upon some key problems in today's American family and is sobering. I appreciated his secular view of what ch [...]

    15. I loved this book from start to finish. Dr. Sax makes some very astute observations about the youth and parents of today. I especially loved his ranking of parents into categories of Too Strict, Too Soft, and Just Right. Even though, I always try to fall into the Just Right category, I found there were several things I needed to change in my parenting style. He also advocates teaching our children self control and humility. It's important for youth to understand we don't always get what we want. [...]

    16. Preachy and predictable. Best summarized in telling parents to make their kids eat broccoli before they get dessert. He makes that point over and over. I agree with most everything he said, but his writing style and lack of interesting facts or anecdotes made me completely lose interest.

    17. I thought this was really excellent, even if there were bits I didn't totally agree with.Full review here: everyday-reading/2016/

    18. I wanted to read this book after reading this article: macleans/society/the-co. The article gave me some things to think about and made me want more. Unfortunately, I appreciated the article more than I appreciated the book that inspired it. It was hard for me to listen to Sax, because I felt like he made unfair generalities and came across as someone who saw the good-ol'-days with rose-colored glasses and the present generation through a very non-understanding lens. I also thought this book wou [...]

    19. Interesting and highly recommended. This isn't a how-to book of tips and tricks (although it does have very direct practical application). It's more of an overview of parenting in our current American environment and the effect its having on individual kids and our culture as a whole. The title (so apocalyptic and dire) was a turn off to me and I was hesitant to read it. My first thought was that this book wouldn't apply to me. Oh ho ho, I was wrong. In the giant soup of all these different pare [...]

    20. This is one of the best books I've read in the past few years. Dr. Sax not only has a great writing style, mixing the rhythm of his sentences and relating interesting stories to illustrate his point, he has clear insight as to the essentials of parenting and how abandoning the primary role of a parent has led to many of the issues (health, a culture of disrespect, and fragility) children and teens of today experience. And he has a great sense of humor to boot. You know a book is good when halfwa [...]

    21. I don't have kids but I work with other people's kids, so I see what happens when parents don't say "no" to their kids. Luckily I have no problem saying it all the time and meaning it. It's sad this book needs to exist and of course, the author has run into all of the worst American kids at the airport, but it has some good points, especially the part about teaching humility. Sax really pushes the idea that parenting in the USA has become awful, but he never explains how we got there. He seems t [...]

    22. 3.5 stars. Well-written and lots of interesting stats about how much a lack of healthy parenting is hindering the success of American kids. I have seen SO much of this as a teacher and even a little with my peers. It gets a little repetitive, and the overall moral of the story is for parents to grow up and let go of wanting to just be liked by their children or wanting their children to be well-liked over being successful. I really enjoyed it, but I also wondered if I was just enjoying hearing m [...]

    23. I was drawn to this book because it sounded like it would support some of the philosophies I hold as a parent. It did do that, and still I found myself identifying practices that I needed to change. It also supported some opinions I hold which are not highly accepted among my peers and some truths I have found but which are sometimes easy to question because they are not widely practiced.This book is full of concepts that may be hard for this generation of parents to hear, and while I found a ve [...]

    24. This is such an important book and will only take you a couple of hours to read. I especially enjoyed the section about teaching children how to live a meaningful life and how separated that is from the common “get good grades, get into a good school, earn a good living” treadmill we put kids on, where we promise that happiness comes from material success. It is a lie and we can do better by our kids! Living a life of meaning requires intention, humility, and a commitment to values, yet none [...]

    25. Great book describing the parenting dilemma the world is facing today. The solutions presented are not very solid compared to what Teaching Self-Government has to offer, but I love that all the concepts and data that he presented support everything that Nicholeen Peck teaches. I 100% agree! Definitely a good one to read if you are interested in understanding the vision of what a good parent really is.

    26. 4.5 starsI listened to this book and would have liked to have taken notes. I did take a few when I could. I really like what Dr. Sax said through out this book! It makes sense! He talks about why kids are so disrespectful these days also why they are so fragile. I thought that was kinda funny but it's true isn't it? Kids these days don't have grit! Anyway it was a good, interesting read. I highly recommend it.

    27. Alright, you know what, we're done here.From what I've read so far, this book is just one big "BACK IN the 1950s KIDS HAD RESPECT" whine-fest. It's being viewed through a nostalgia filter that doesn't take into account the MASSIVE amount of fucked up things that adults were doing to children that was hushed up and never spoken about because "we don't talk about that sort of thing". First off, honestly, you have to be completely historically illiterate to think that parents didn't have LOADS of c [...]

    28. A must-read for every new parent! A terrifying and accurate account of where American parenting in this time period has gone wrong. It also highlights the concerning features of American culture that make parenting today very difficult and offers strategies to side-step these obstacles. Dr. Sax validates many of the concerns I've had also working with children and families. It leaves me haunted by the question: exactly what will you do to prepare your children to lead a meaningful life?

    29. This is another intensely logical book by Dr. Sax on how to raise your children right. It not only offers explanations as to why American kids are so disrespectful and fragile, but offers solutions as well.“Teachers in these high-end schools now routinely pass out wireless clickers to students for instant polling. In the most successful countries, the classrooms are typically ‘utilitarian and sparse’ with no digital gadgets. Ripley notes that in countries which outperform the United States [...]

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