The Pure Lover: A Memoir of Grief

The Pure Lover is David Plante s elegy to his beloved Nikos Stangos, their forty year life together, and its tragic end Written in vivid fragments that, like the pieces of a mosaic, come together into a glimmering whole, it shows us both the wild nature of grief and the intimate conversation that is love.From the Trade Paperback edition.
The Pure Lover A Memoir of Grief The Pure Lover is David Plante s elegy to his beloved Nikos Stangos their forty year life together and its tragic end Written in vivid fragments that like the pieces of a mosaic come together into

  • Title: The Pure Lover: A Memoir of Grief
  • Author: David Plante
  • ISBN: 9780807072981
  • Page: 466
  • Format: Hardcover
  • 1 thought on “The Pure Lover: A Memoir of Grief”

    1. This gets five stars on the basis that it made me weepy at the end. Also it was the best meditation on loss and grief that I've read. That too.

    2. David Plante’s recounting of his meeting Nikos Stangos and their subsequent forty year relationship is a gift to the reader. It is both heartwarming and heartbreaking in its examining a relationship and the person loved. The beginning of the memoir is a brief retelling of Nikos’ personal history – sometimes directed to Nikos, as though he might offer a correction in a detail left out. It gives an account of their meeting and time together and apart – it isn’t extensive, but a reflectio [...]

    3. I loved this book!! I was afraid that it would seem disjointed and frustrating,but David Plante is such a skillfull writer that he knows exactly how to maintain the readers' interest. I was utterly fascinated by the glamorous portrait of the stellar literary life in London. I was also moved by some of the beautiful expressions of devotion. What a gorgeous love story! Some passages are very intellectual and a little over my head,so I will need to re-read them. I was utterly spellbound by the youn [...]

    4. This is a beautiful and profluent portrait - memoir of a life and living together. David Plante first met Nikos in London while he was still an aspiring young American writer. Nikos was a Greek poet, intellectual and survivor of the war. It was 1965 and a life together was about to begin. In his memoir Plante uses fragments of their life together to create a mosaic of what was a beautiful duumvirate. Fleeting flinders told with piquant prose about time together and time past. This is a book to c [...]

    5. Poignant but not gloomy, this 2009 memoir is a delicate mosaic of reminiscences of a 40-year gay relationship broken only by the inevitable passing of one of the partners. A real-life m/m romance, it reminds us that 'marriage' is not an absolutely necessary condition for two people who naturally grow into each other (though it may be useful fiscal policy in terms of legal equality, etc). Prose gems very heavily influenced by Cavafy.

    6. This is the story of a man who loved his partner for some 40 years; and then he died of brain cancer. It is written in the second person; like a letter addressed to the lover who died. It is very emotional and -I think- depressing because is the description of the unimaginable: the loosing of the one a person loves.

    7. So good it hurt. Questions everything in a poetical form. This choppy narrative of reminiscenses wonders why love is, why love is so deep and why love goes on so long when it's no longer physically attendant. Beautifully written, poetical prose!

    8. This was probably the best love story I've read in a while. I felt the full gamut of emotions going through the story. Best enjoyed while listening to Bach. Truly excellent.

    9. No book as ever made me sob like this one. While reading it, I could have never anticipated my reaction to the last few pages. It was utterly heartbreaking to me.

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